About Me…

i am a submissive at heart searching deep within my soul. ask and i will tell…i am open minded,big hearted, and of course require slight redirection at times…all in all a hotlilmess. A mother of 3, a woman with needs, and a little girl deep down inside. This is my journey of submission, sexuality, BDSM lifestyle and much more. My journey began on a whim and ended up becoming a life altering experience.Β  The first few posts will be how my journey began and how a training of on line submission ultimately brought my best friend of 20 years back to me and literally saved my marriage. i write with the intent to encourage exploration, share knowledge, and keep track of the millions of things that race through the mind of a 37 year old woman that finally has found her calling.

75 Responses to “About Me…”

  1. writingthebody February 22, 2013 at 8:49 am #

    It sounds like an extraordinary journey!

  2. hotlilmess February 23, 2013 at 11:45 am #

    Thank you, i hope so.

  3. The Soul Tamagotchi March 6, 2013 at 6:36 pm #

    good luck and wish u great happiness in your marriage.

  4. Reticent Mental Property March 16, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

    isn’t it great when you can find the words to define yourself and who you are and where you are going and what is good in your life? what a gift; this seeing of our self…

    • hotlilmess March 16, 2013 at 3:16 pm #

      Absolutely. i am truly excited in regards to my life changes, and feel fortunate to be able to say that. Thank you so very much for reading and commenting.

  5. grizyeti March 22, 2013 at 7:37 am #

    Thank you so very much for the follow and likes of my writings.
    I’m happy you;re here, looking forward to your opinions on things.

    • hotlilmess March 22, 2013 at 9:30 am #

      Thank you so much. i thoroughly enjoy your writings. Thank you for reading and commenting. Keep writing.

  6. writingthebody March 31, 2013 at 2:38 am #

    Dear hot and lovely one, I am mainly honouring you for being a brave and kind one….with a tag award…rules etc…that I have modified a bit…

  7. DADDY'S LIL PRINCESS April 19, 2013 at 9:37 pm #

    good luck on your journey!

  8. seriousseamus May 2, 2013 at 12:06 am #

    Your blog is sexy and mighty. It makes me want to do very bad things with it. Very good, bad things. Award winning things. http://thewistfulsinner.wordpress.com/2013/05/01/as-i-do-my-little-dance-on-the-catwalk/

    • hotlilmess May 2, 2013 at 8:55 am #

      i love it!!! Thank you so very much. A wonderfully bad honor.

  9. Penelope Jones May 13, 2013 at 8:39 pm #

    Happy birthday Missy!!!! Big fat snuggles and kisses!!!

    Bad Penny

  10. writingthebody May 18, 2013 at 9:45 am #

    yes another nomination from me….not just because I love your blog, but because you are so kind to me on mine….http://writingthebody.wordpress.com/

    • hotlilmess May 20, 2013 at 7:23 am #

      Honored.Flattered.Much love from me to you.

      • writingthebody May 20, 2013 at 9:07 am #

        O thank you!

  11. writingthebody May 21, 2013 at 9:45 am #

    And my dear, dear love an award….http://writingthebody.wordpress.com/ please do answer my questions….lol

    • hotlilmess May 21, 2013 at 9:46 am #

      i can not find them?? Blonde……i would never intentionally ignore you!! πŸ˜‰

      • writingthebody May 21, 2013 at 9:55 am #

        so you really are blonde! Always dommes in my book, but there you go…

    • hotlilmess May 21, 2013 at 9:48 am #

      ok..yayyyyyy i found it, the other link led me to your beautiful stories…too submissive to search. sitting down and answering this very minute! Thank you for your kindness, always.

      • writingthebody May 21, 2013 at 9:50 am #

        love you!

  12. writingthebody May 29, 2013 at 11:59 am #

    More crazy stuff from me on the topic of 11s. My award to you…of course…http://writingthebody.wordpress.com/

    • hotlilmess June 1, 2013 at 8:49 pm #

      i relish in your crazy!! Thank you!

      • writingthebody June 2, 2013 at 4:01 am #

        well thank you too!

        • hotlilmess June 2, 2013 at 7:20 am #

          Really i am going crazy!!! Where are all the questions you have awarded me??? Perhaps i am becoming complacent with all these kind words and awards. i hope i am not missing them,i truly enjoy them. Not complacent at all..

  13. ballsybilly June 3, 2013 at 7:59 am #

    BTW Ur still a youngster. Lots of living and lots of FUN ahead!

  14. writingthebody June 14, 2013 at 9:30 am #

    An award my dear….as ever for all the good same reasons…http://writingthebody.wordpress.com/

    • hotlilmess June 16, 2013 at 8:00 am #

      Wiggles and giggles…Thank you 100000000 times!!

    • hotlilmess June 21, 2013 at 7:30 am #

      Tonight i am doing this…wait for it…..with wine!!!! This shall be fun!

      • writingthebody June 22, 2013 at 9:43 am #

        O great!

  15. SirShy73 June 20, 2013 at 7:11 am #

    You have a very nice writing style and I just love your posts.
    It is great that you had good both online and offline experience.

    • hotlilmess June 20, 2013 at 9:23 am #

      Thank you for following and reading.Your kindness is certainly appreciated.

      • SirShy73 June 20, 2013 at 9:29 am #

        You are more than welcome. I just started my first blog; it still needs a lot of work… But I hope that I am doing a good job.

        • hotlilmess June 20, 2013 at 9:34 am #

          It’s very good. i am trying to”follow you” but WordPress is making that difficult..

          • SirShy73 June 20, 2013 at 10:07 am #

            Thank you. I would love to have you as my first follower.
            Have a great day!

  16. aliceinwunderland41 July 12, 2013 at 5:25 pm #

    Hi there…You were following my blog and I’ve just been forced to change my settings to private due to a mishap with a former friend. If you would like to continue following me you will have to update my old URL to my new….I was AliceinWunderland41 but now I’m http://phoenixrising41.wordpress.com/

    I’ve tried to invite you internally but was blocked…that is why I’m using this avenue,….


    • hotlilmess September 10, 2013 at 10:20 am #

      Phewww…i was searching actually. Thank you for keeping me in the loop.

  17. aliceinwunderland41 July 19, 2013 at 9:36 pm #

    Please accept the Shine On Award: http://phoenixrising41.wordpress.com/

  18. thekinkyworldofvile August 9, 2013 at 8:05 am #

    Online I am guessing you have learned much. I mention in my blogs at times a book called The Surrendered Wife, She went through the same transition.
    Much Love

    • hotlilmess September 10, 2013 at 10:26 am #

      Thank you,will read the book.

  19. Mynx's Sir January 10, 2014 at 5:18 pm #

    Excellent about page miss- Mynx and I both enjoy your posts!

    -Mynx’s Sir (Tom Wolf) πŸ™‚

    • hotlilmess January 11, 2014 at 9:26 am #

      What a wonderful compliment. Thank you.

  20. mrmodigliani February 22, 2014 at 1:18 pm #

    Hi LilMess, just thought I would drop in and say hi. It’s been a little time since I’ve touched base. Hope all is well.

    • hotlilmess February 24, 2014 at 5:38 pm #

      Awe, thank you! What a pleasant surprise. Yes all is well, just returning from vacation. Hope all is well for you as well. Will be catching up on Your writings (my reading) this evening! Thank You again. πŸ™‚

  21. writingthebody April 27, 2014 at 11:01 am #

    Yes it is good to see you back….

    • hotlilmess April 27, 2014 at 1:09 pm #

      Why thank you! Good to be back.Thank you for remembering me.

      • writingthebody April 27, 2014 at 7:01 pm #

        Remembering you? Are you serious….last year was huge for me, and so were you. So yes, of course I remember you….x

        • hotlilmess April 27, 2014 at 7:22 pm #

          Flattered..honestly,i am so happy,i have missed you and princess so much! πŸ™‚

          • writingthebody April 27, 2014 at 7:23 pm #

            How sweet of you! xx

  22. sirslittledarling April 27, 2014 at 6:02 pm #

    Eeeeek….:). Thank you for liking my post and welcoming me to this community.. I look forward to making new friends. Xo

    • hotlilmess April 27, 2014 at 6:11 pm #

      Lol…actually the eeek has become awwwe and you are quite welcome. Thank you for the follow. πŸ™‚

  23. Exposed Loving March 27, 2015 at 2:03 pm #


    Thanks for checking out my blog and liking my post. I hope you will continue to enjoy my blog.

  24. deutschtrailer April 11, 2015 at 8:20 am #

    Hi sexy Lady !
    You have a very nice blog, thank you very much ….πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—

    • hotlilmess April 12, 2015 at 6:49 pm #

      Thank you for reading, liking, and the beautiful compliment !

      • deutschtrailer April 13, 2015 at 8:37 am #

        If you like my blog then please follow me …. πŸ™‚

  25. brattopia April 23, 2015 at 1:56 pm #

    Hello! I just now saw a message from you in my feedback area that I had missed. I wanted to say I was sorry I didn’t get a response to it, and couldn’t find a way to respond like you can to comments! It looks like you figured out how to follow Brattopia though! And thank you, for the likes and for following. So happy to have you there.

    Very much enjoying your blog!


    • hotlilmess April 23, 2015 at 6:38 pm #

      Ha…thank you so much. Some days I seem to have such technical difficulties, I must have left you a message on one of those days. I certainly have figured out how to comment on your fabulous blog!! πŸ’ž
      Thank you so much for following my blog.

      • brattopia April 24, 2015 at 10:10 am #

        *lol* I so understand that! πŸ™‚

        You are welcome, and thank you as well! πŸ™‚ xxx

  26. myarousal August 24, 2015 at 8:51 pm #

    Thank you for following me….and the likes!…….*smiles*

    • hotlilmess August 24, 2015 at 9:01 pm #

      My pleasure. Thank you for visiting and following my blog.

  27. Robertweisenburger July 6, 2016 at 1:33 am #

    Loved it

  28. darling February 8, 2018 at 11:33 pm #

    Glad to have found you! Shyly waving

    • hotlilmess February 8, 2018 at 11:41 pm #

      Thank you so much. I’m glad you did too. ~waves back smiling ~

  29. thebarefootsub March 21, 2018 at 7:14 am #

    I nominated you for The Mystery Blogger Award https://aleapoffaith.blog/2018/03/21/be-grateful-for-small-things-big-things-and-everything-in-between/

    • hotlilmess March 21, 2018 at 6:52 pm #

      Wow…thank you so very much. Honored.

      • thebarefootsub March 21, 2018 at 7:03 pm #

        You are very welcome, much deserved x

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